My heart goes out to those who have to endure exasperating in-laws. I can only imagine the stress it places on a marriage. Building a quality relationship with your spouse is challenging enough without in-laws undercutting or complicating issues.
I often joked that the reason I and Mom T. had a good relationship is because I learned early that her son was perfect. You and I know that is not true, but she did not want to hear about any imperfections her son might have. So whenever I was around her, I made sure to say positive things about my husband. It worked. She thought I was the perfect wife for her son.
After being widowed for several years, Mom T. married a widower. They found love, companionship, and enjoyment together. When my mother-in-law passed away a couple of years ago, my husband and I decided we still considered his stepdad as a member of the family. He had made the last twenty years of my mother-in-laws life happy. I think he knows we are grateful. But we probably do not tell him we love him often enough.
How can you let your in-laws know that you appreciate them? I think I will write him a note.
Let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18
Resolved Day 9: I will go out of my way to let my father-in-law know that I love and appreciate him.