“I sure hope Nancy doesn’t forget to bring the cookies for tonight’s rehearsal refreshments.”
Susan knew she was being hateful when she made that comment to her friends who were helping her finish the last minute adjustments to the props for the Christmas program. After all, last summer Nancy had forgotten to provide the post-game drinks for the baseball team. True. Nancy had laughed it off and bought each of the boys a drink at the concession stand. She came through, but Nancy HAD forgotten.
“Surely she will remember. Do you want me to call and remind her?”
Susan bristled a bit as she realized how mean her comment must have sounded, but she wasn’t willing to let it go.
“No. We will just let her suffer the consequences of disappointing the cast if she forgets.” Several members of the group shook their heads. In the spirit of negativism, another couple of critical comments were made about Nancy.
The committee continued their work but mostly in grumbly silence. Earlier there had been a bit of joking and laughing as they worked. Now, each was lost in negative thoughts.
Have you ever noticed how one cynical comment about another person in your group can poison the interactions of all who heard it?
I am ashamed to say that I have been guilty of making such comments. And like the members of the committee, I have been unwilling to do the right thing—make a tactful call so the fretting can stop. How often have I failed to make the effort to turn the conversation to something uplifting and wholesome?
But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another. Galatians 5:15
If the shoe fits . . .